This weekend, I had the opportunity to go to a wedding of my very close friends daughter. Although she is L.D.S. she chose a different life path. On this path the man she met and chose is not L.D.S. and for their wedding it was one of the farthest things from any wedding I have been to. (not bad by any means)
At the beginning of the wedding they had what the guy performing the wedding called a Buddhist Blessing (I think that is what he called it). For knowing that at the end of this life, this union will be over, still the ceremony was one of the most memorable I have ever been to.
One of the first things he did was have the bride take the grooms hands palms up into her hands and examine them. He reminded her that these would be the hands that would hold her and give her love and comfort. That would lift her when she was down, and help keep her grounded. That will wipe away the tears when she cries, and stoke her cheek to remind her how much love he has for her. There were a few other things that he listed, but I lost track of them. Then he had the groom do the same thing with the bride.
It had to be one of the most emotional ceremonies for me. It felt very personal for me. Firstly probably because I have always loved Chet's hands! His hands are strong and can fix most things. They are an extension of him. I love his hands! So for the Preacher guy, (I'm not sure he was a preacher) to point this out to the two of them, it became very personal to me. It touched my soul and reminded me how grateful I am for Chet and his hands. For being there lo lift me up and keep me grounded all at the same time.
While talking to my Mom about the ceremony, when I mentioned that I felt like it was a very personal ceremony for me, she told me that she thinks that that is what we are suppose to do at someone else's wedding. Make it personal. To her she feels this way because, at your own wedding, there is SO much going on, that most of the time you miss the things that should stand out the most, so by making someone else's wedding personal to you, you can and might learn something, or be reminded of something you might have forgotten, that could help you in your marriage currently. It made a great deal of sense to me! In this case I think I truly just might have taken more away from the ceremony than the couple did.
I also think that I might just pay more attention to the next one just a bit more than I have before!
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